"The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them." Maya Angelou
His supervisor seemed to dislike him right off the bat. He was hired by someone higher up in the company, and for whatever reason he and his new boss just did not hit it off. "He really has it in for me," is what he told me as he enumerated some of the fault-finding that was going on.
Is it human nature that when we dislike someone, we look for all kinds of things to support our theory? The reverse is also true. Once we decide we like or love a person, it's almost like our pride is at stake and we want our good judgment validated. So we look for the good stuff and ignore the bad, to our own peril.
Time and time again I have heard honest people look back on a failed friendship, business relationship or marriage. With the 20/20 vision of hindsight, they will say that they saw the first sign that something was terribly wrong very early on, but ignored it.
Don Draper, a character in my favorite television show "Mad Men" said it best. "People tell us who they are and we ignore it, because we want them to be who we want them to be."
Susan
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