"Some people cause happiness wherever they go; others, whenever they go." Oscar Wilde
Christmas is my favorite holiday. I like my Christmases sparkly and festive and completely over the top. It's a time to become a little extravagant with the gifts and go a little overboard with the food and let people know how very much we love them.
She grew up in a home with an alcoholic father and a passive mother. With not much money and little effort on the part of either parent, she didn't have many happy Christmas memories. Except one. The best Christmas ever. Early one Christmas morning, her father became enraged and stormed out of the house and didn't return until after she was in bed that night. Just by leaving, that dad gave his little girl the best Christmas ever, a happy and peaceful day. Our lives instantly and magically improve when toxic people are removed from them.
I'm all for working on relationships and giving people the benefit of the doubt and second and third and fourth chances. And especially at the holidays, we want to include everyone we love. The thought of excluding someone at Christmas can make us feel as heartless as Ebenezer Scrooge himself. But some folks are so hurtful and so dysfunctional and so unwilling to change. It's then that the best present we can give ourselves is to draw a very hard line and put an end to their abuse.
A happy and peaceful Christmas day. That is something we all deserve.
Susan
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