"It is good to rub and polish our brain against that of others." Michel de Montaigne
He told me how he and his sweetheart could argue and debate various issues, without either one of them becoming offended or angry. And often one did not persuade the other to change, either. They just sort of agreed to disagree in certain areas. What a unique relationship that is, and how exciting when two minds meet in that way. It sounded very sexy to me.
Long term relationships and marriages run smoother when there is agreement and accord in the major areas. It makes things easy when you share the same views on how to raise the children and how to handle money, for instance. And certainly it makes life more peaceful when you have similar tastes, likes and dislikes. But there needs to be a balance, I think, between having that other person be your soulmate (which sometimes means you just want a clone of yourself to make you feel more secure) and being a completely unique and different individual.
Susan
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